‘If you’ve fallen for one another in a big way and you both know it, then you might love the opportunity to spend a day celebrating your new-found love,’ Selina told us.
‘But if you’re taking it slow and seeing how things go, then you might want to give a light-hearted nod towards Valentine’s Day – a jokingly cheesy card or a chocolate heart.’ Essentially, if you and the person you’re dating have been super mushy and romantic from the get-go, you’ll probably want to do something for Valentine’s Day.
You finally got the courage to talk to that cute guy from your class, and one night at the bar, he made a move.
You’re both having fun, but you decide to keep it casual without any real commitment.
Here’s HC’s guide for how to handle your casual hook-up on February 14.
The biggest source of your anxiety probably comes from wondering if you have to do something special with your casual hook-up on Valentine’s Day.
It doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t care about you or think less of you; it just means they’re unsure of what, if anything, to do.” On the flip side, if your casual hook-up gets you something for Valentine’s Day and you’re caught empty-handed, don’t freak out. “Look him or her in the eye and say, ‘Thank you so much for thinking of me! “Remember: A gift is not given with the expectation of getting.” The best way to avoid awkwardness on Valentine’s Day is to just have a conversation about it. It would get the conversation started so you can gauge how your hook-up feels about the holiday, and then you can decide to make plans or not!
You might feel uncomfortable bringing it up depending on how long you’ve been hooking up or how casual the relationship is, but if you don’t want to keep guessing, bring it up casually without adding any pressure. Whether you want to do something for Valentine’s Day or not, talking to your casual hook-up can be a lot easier than trying to guess what will happen on February 14.You want to send the message that says, “I care about you” versus, “I’m madly in love with you.” A good rule of thumb: If you would feel uncomfortable getting the gift from your casual hook-up, don’t give it to him or her.Giving gifts can get potentially awkward, especially if one person doesn’t reciprocate.The risk that they won’t get you anything in return and you’ll look really keen is too damn high.If you’ve just started dating, it’s likely that they’re struggling to figure out what’s appropriate, too. Pretending it’s not happening makes you seem cagey. If you talk honestly about it, then there won’t be any awkward assumptions, or one person making far more of an effort than the other.’ Probably the wisest option.Ish encourages erring on the side of caution so you don’t send the wrong message. “You don’t want to send the wrong message that could change the dynamics of what you have.